These two words are beginning to become the bane of my pregnant existence. As in, “by this point in your pregnancy, you should feel/notice/experience…” or “by now you are definitely feeling/noticing/experiencing…” It seems that every website, every article, and every book likes to tell me what should definitely be happening at any given point in my pregnancy. But the truth is, it doesn’t work that way. If it did, I’d have gained 15 pounds, have DD knockers, a huge belly, and be kept awake all night due to baby’s movements. I’d also have stopped feeling exhausted and having to pee all night right as soon as the second trimester hit.
I have come to realize that everything happens on its own schedule, and is different for every woman. I have been fortunate to have been spared the worst of the pregnancy symptoms thus far — morning sickness, moodiness, excessive weight gain, excruciatingly sore breasts, and other ones that nobody wants to read about on a blog 😉 — but at the same time, this caused me unnecessary worry at times, as the experts seemed to agree that certain things should have been happening at certain times, and for me, they simply weren’t.
This afternoon we had our monthly visit with the midwife, and everything is a-okay. All of my lab tests have come back with perfect results, and other than the eczema, which got better for a stint but then returned, I am feeling awesome and can’t complain about a thing. The baby was really fidgeting about, making it tricky to get a good read on the heartbeat, but we managed to hear it a few times for a few seconds at a time. We also heard the baby kick the doppler, and then immediately afterwards, I felt a nudge from inside in the exact same place the doppler had been. So I guess I can now say that I’ve definitely felt the baby move 🙂
I am starting to relax a bit more and worry a bit less, and I think the ultrasound in two and a half weeks will go a long way towards alleviating the rest of my concerns. Now if I could just find a nice pair of maternity slacks that don’t look like clown pants on me…