Back before Oliver was born, if someone had told me he would be sleeping in our room for the first six months of his life, I would have scoffed at them. After all of the parenting and sleep books we’d read, Oliver was obviously going to be sleeping through the night (12 hours worth) by three months old. The plan was for Oliver to spend the first six to eight weeks in a bassinet in our room, by which point he would be sleeping long enough stretches that we could move him into his own room, where he would happily sleep for seven to eight hours at a time.
Perhaps we were a bit naive in that regard… 🙂
I should point out that the Canadian Paediatric Society actually recommends that babies sleep in their parents’ rooms for the first six months of life, so even though Oliver stayed a lot longer than we’d ever intended, it was probably for the best.
The layout of our apartment (Oliver’s crib is located nearly 75 feet away from our bed) presented a catch-22: we didn’t want to move him into his own room until we had eliminated his night wakings, because neither one of us was interested in traipsing across the apartment multiple times each night, in the dark, tripping over cats. Yet we suspected that his night wakings were at least in part caused by sharing a room with us.
Last Sunday we finally sucked it up, and Oliver made the big move. He doesn’t seem thrilled to be on his own yet — where he used to go down to sleep with little or no fussing, he now cries when we put him into bed — but he’s adjusting better every day, and I think he’s enjoying the newfound space in his crib.
I miss having Oliver close by at night, but it’s certainly been nice to reclaim our bedroom as an adult space, where we can talk and move about freely without worry of waking the baby. Previously, our bedroom was almost entirely consumed by Oliver and all of his worldly belongings. Now that he has moved into his own room, we have so much empty space! We kept the exersaucer and a small basket of toys for keeping Oliver occupied when we need to be in our own room (showering, dressing, etc.), but everything else has moved into his room.
As for the sleeping, we spent the week prior to the move working on getting through the night without feedings, and so far Oliver is responding well to that change. He is still waking during the night, but he will often settle himself after a few minutes of fussing, and it’s been more than a week since I’ve had to feed him before 6:00 AM.
Our little baby is growing up. Sniff, sniff.
When did you (or do you plan to) move your baby to his or her own room? Or have you chosen to co-sleep?